Why is Change so Hard and What To Do About It?

Many People resist to life changes because they believe they will lose something of value or fear they will not be able to adapt to the new ways coming into their. It’s a significant change to their daily routine, which is deeply emotional because it threatens their comfort.

Every new year Over 80% of New Year’s resolutions are abandoned within a week. If change were easy, we’d all be wealthy, fit, and happy. It’s frustrating when you know what you want to do something different, but you can’t get yourself to do it consistently. If the new behavior would obviously be of benefit, why is it that change is not easy to make?

Change can be challenging for several reasons:

  1. Personal Habits are strong and pervasive. The average person has far more habits than they realize. Each morning, you wake up and follow the same routine. You take the same route to work. You will think the same thoughts as you did the day before. Much of your day and night is a repeat of the last 500.
  • When you feel bored, you soothe yourself in the same 2-3 ways each time. You only eat a few foods regularly. You talk to the same people.

  • Habits avoid thinking. They’re done automatically. Anything that minimizes thinking seems to be your brain’s preference. The fewer decisions, the better.

  • Change can become hard because it’s uncomfortable. You already know how to lose 25 kilos or how to find a new better job. But the thought of taking the actions necessary to accomplish your new goals creates discomfort.

  • What you’re doing is already working. Your brain is preoccupied with how you survive. Our brains are programmed to resist change, because what you’re doing now is allowing you to live.
  • You may have tried to change in the past and failed. You’re no dummy. If you’ve tried to change several times and failed, part of you says, “Obviously, I can’t change. What’s the use in trying?”

It isn’t easy to change, but change is possible. The primary issue keeping you from following through on your plan to change is attempting to change too much, too soon. Smaller changes are easier to accomplish and to maintain.

What this means is that leaders need to make people feel safe and secure by addressing their fears and concerns. Great leaders do that by involving people in the change process, consulting them, listening to their ideas and making them part of the journey.

Here are my 5 Tips to help make a change in your life

  1. Be ready to change. Expect that all changes will be challenging. Your odds of success improve if you’re prepared. Have a well laid out plan.

  2. Start small. To minimize the discomfort that change creates, only change a little each week. Meditating for two minutes each day is easier than starting with 30 minutes. The key is to get in the habit of doing the new behavior each day and each moment of activity.

  3. Be patience. It will take months to make a change permanent. It’s often quoted that a new habit requires anywhere from a few weeks to several months, depending on the habit and the person.

  4. Be willing to change yourself and face the outcome. Changing yourself is scary, because you don’t know what the results will be. Accept that your life will change in some way.Discomfort isn’t always a bad thing.

  5. Expect to relapse. Falling off the wagon is to be expected. Attempt to enhance your approach and keep going. Aim for 80% compliance. That’s all you need. Perfection is an illusion that will only serve to destroy your confidence.

Change requires patience with yourself. Understand why it’s so challenging to change and choose to make changes slowly and incrementally. Imagine how much you could change over a few years if you changed just a tiny amount each week. The results would be staggering! How much have you changed over the last few years? Give slow change a chance.

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